What’s your why?
What is the reason that you get up out of bed in the morning? No, I am not talking about reasons you HAVE to get up, like because you have to go to work or have to get your kids ready for school. I mean what’s the point of getting up out of bed in the morning for you?
When I am asking what your why is, I am not asking why you are doing the things you are doing, like why you are doing the job that you are, or why you eat a particular brand of cereal. I mean, what is your life for?
What’s your purpose?
What do you feel connected to?
What do you do feel driven to?
What Does it Mean to Find Your Why ?
Your why doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s, which means it can be difficult to pin down.
It could be that you want to leave a legacy behind. Maybe you want to help people. Or you could be committed to helping people feel more joyous or loved in their lives. Maybe your why is about cultivating compassion in your community. Or it could even be that you want to ensure your families success or to make lots of money.
All of these are valid ‘whys’.
Even with all of those examples, you might be thinking, wow this is actually really tricky. And you are right.
Most of us don’t really do this kind of introspection about our lives.
It’s very rare that we sit back and say, hey, what am I doing? Why am I doing this? Why am I doing this job? Why am I eating certain foods? Why am I not getting up and exercising?
We rarely really take the time to get consciously aware of what’s going on.
Now, I’m not talking about why in the sense of why me? Or why is this happening to me? Or Why does this always happen to me?
I’m not talking about victimhood.
Your why isn’t about being a victim of life, or all the reasons why you are in the place you are now in your life. When I am talking about your why I am speaking about your purpose; it should be empowering, not based in blame of victimhood.
Your Why is Your Mission Statement
Even after all that explanation, you may still be thinking, I don’t get it. Don’t worry, it’s not something we are used to thinking or talking about.
Here’s a great example:
Most companies, large or small, have some sort of mission statement or vision. This mission statement imparts on the staff and employees the values of the organization, in an effort to unite, inspire and motivate them.
Your why should do the exact same thing. Your why is your personal mission statement.
That being said, it should function just like a company’s mission statement; it should inspire you, it should motivate you, and it should inform everything you do in your life. Everything should revolve around your mission statement.
But how do we find out what our personal mission statement is?
Well, if you look at your actions, you will immediately be able to tell what it is that you are truly committed to, and what you are not. Your actions are essential to discovering what your why is.
And keep in mind, your why or mission statement isn’t just in effect when you are at home, or when you are being introspective—it also applies to the work you do in your job, and the role you play in the world.
Losing Your Why
Sometimes it is easy to feel like we don’t understand what the point of everything is. There is this existential angst or feelings of futility or emptiness. We feel lost, and we are always wondering, is this what I am supposed to be doing?
When we don’t connect to our higher mission, we feel uninspired.
We also subconsciously create situations reflecting back to us things that will hold us back—which I have experienced both personally and in my work with many people over the years. It is one thing to realize what is going on in your world is a reflection of what is going on inside, but it’s not always something we are conscious of.
By finding our why we will stop creating these situations, stop pushing and forcing ourselves to just hurry up and figure out life. Instead, we start creating and doing everything from a place of connectedness to that bigger mission and purpose.
The Benefits of Finding Your Why
When we find our why, we have a better understanding of ourselves, we feel more connected and we have more trust in our lives.
By connecting to our purpose, we feel connected to a higher mission—something much bigger than ourselves.
This is one of the most significant transformations we can make in our lives. It will radically change the way that you connect with yourself and other people, the way you discover yourself. It will also shift the way you step into leadership and the way you inspire others.
Finding your why is an essential piece to realizing your dreams and making them a reality.
I invite you today to take some time and think about this and look at all the inspired actions and activities that you do on a daily basis, no matter what the motivation or inspiration, and tell me in the comments below if you think these could be connected to your why.
And if you know your why, definitely share it with us and let us know!